I’m currently in a relationship with a fella the age of my older sister.It has its perks and it has its bummer moments, but I think dating up in age is something that women should do at least once in life, even if it doesn’t turn into something serious.Dating an older man can teach you a lot, especially about yourself (and what you do and don’t want in a partner), but it’s not always the easiest of relationships. Just in case you’re thinking of getting serious with a fella quite a few years older or even decades older than you, here are a few things you might want to keep in mind before you get it crackin’.Depending on how old the man you’re seeing is, he might have certain goals he’s trying to finish accomplishing.I know a woman who dates an older man, and he jumps from profession to profession while trying to make a career in music take off.But the guy I’m dating is focused on taking his career to the next level.He’s busy studying for a major exam that will allow him to work for whomever he wants and to make the kind of moves and money I probably won’t ever see (hey, columnists weren’t meant to be millionaires).With all that drive comes a lot of time we don’t get to share together.
Besides, I wouldn’t want the finger pointed at me for having a part in keeping him from doing what he needs to do to get ahead.Some older fellas are flexible in trying new things (aka, the stuff you like), but what happens when you’re dealing with one who says, “I stopped hanging out at places like that in my 20s”?Sometimes you just have to accept that you might be messing with a party pooper, and from there you will have to determine if his lack of spontaneity is enough to make you leave because you feel you’re being held back.But for the most part, suggesting a range of fun things that don’t become repetitive could get him out of his set ways slowly but surely. Like I said, if you allow it, things can get pretty dull.While I love me some him, my partner has no problem with chilling indoors all day, catching up on his taped shows and eating the same rice dish every week. Feel free to encourage an opportunity for the both of you to cook together. Hit up a cute wine bar and talk about more than work.Try a new type of food (and pitch in to pay from time to time), or if you must stay cooped up in the house, pull out the Dominoes.