There is nothing worse than reading a joke that isn't funny and then having the fact that it isn't funny, but that somehow someone else thinks it is, explained to you.If your joke isn't funny to that person, it's either a) not funny at all, or b) not funny to him/her. In the middle of this city you're walking around in, surrounded by thousands and millions of people walking, you fear you might be the only one who likes walking?
Instead, as with good tip #5, use the message to ask about him/her.
Talking about yourself, at this point, should be limited, and related to the person you're interested in.**Bonus advice: Never, for the love of god, describe yourself (whether in your profile, or in messages) as a "kick-ass" ANYTHING. A few years back, the OKCupid blog posted a really helpful index of what kinds of messages get responses — and which ones don't.
Let me tell you, nobody on that site is reading it. There's lots of good stuff here — write using real words and real sentences; don't compliment their looks up front; bring up specific interests.
Again, you'd think these things would go without saying.
If I could only give one bit of dating advice, it would be to send messages to everyone who takes your fancy.
However, when it comes to sending your first message to someone it can be hard to think of what to say.