Dating a friend of your ex boyfriend

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Jennifer Aniston and bestie Courtney Cox were both romantically linked with Counting Crows frontman Adam Duritz - and Katy Perry and Taylor Swift both had relationships with John Meyer (though that one did cause Bad Blood).

Simply say, “Look, I just thought you should know that (their exes name) and I have gone on a few dates.

I’m not sure if anything will come of it but I know you dated in the past and I thought you should know.”Let me say once more, it’s never going to be the best idea you had, but if you honestly do believe their ex is your future love of your life, here’s how to have the best shot at keeping the friendship.

Let me say once more, it’s never going to be the best idea you had, but if you honestly do believe their ex is your future love of your life, here’s how to have the best shot at keeping the friendship You’ll probably get one of three reactions: they’ll be genuinely happy you’ve met someone you really like and won’t care; they’ll be upset and may well walk out; or pride will make them say, “Sure, go ahead! You’ll be strongly tempted to gossip about the person you both know, each repeating what they said about you (never dreaming you’d end up going out) and be massively curious about how their relationship was and how you compare.

If you find yourself in this situation, you need to be prepared.

(*A note here: Of course, there are varying degrees of gravity -- a former fling may be less of a big deal than a serious relationship, and if we're talking about a recent ex-husband or ex-wife and your friend, well, then, we'll go out on a limb and say that perhaps you should reconsider your friendship unless there is an extremely unique circumstance.) If you've found yourself facing this situation as the person whose friend and ex are now dating, here are a few tips on how to handle yourself with style and grace: Have a support system handy: It's nice to ask one or two close friends to help you out.

They can keep you posted on what they see and hear about this new relationship, as it's never fun to be the last to know.

Keeping your thoughts limited to this tightly knit circle will also prevent you from blabbering your opinion about the new couple to everyone.

Don't overcompensate with fake happiness: You don't have to pretend to like what's happening, so don't overdo it with sappy sweet congrats and good wishes ... If you get caught in a confrontation, just smile, have a pre-planned friendly sentence or two to recite, keep it short and sweet, and move on.

Maintain your distance: You probably don't want to get any closer to the action than you need to, so when you're stuck in the same social scene, take the seat at the opposite end of the table, or strike up a conversation with the cute guy or girl at the other end of the bar.

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