Moving to Indonesia alone and/or especially as a woman can be a daunting experience, but if you are prepared and educated about what to expect then you will be able to surround yourself with good, decent people.You will be able to find long, lasting relationships and spare yourself a lot of heartache and disappointment. Relationships are hard, mixed race relationships are harder.In mixed relationships you will find your fair share of cultural differences, and there will be times when compromise just seems near impossible.The secret to a lasting happy connection is a willingness from both parties to want to understand each other.Take the time to talk to one another, listen closely and don’t assert dominance (as either a man or woman) as it just won’t work.When starting a new relationship with an Indonesian man is best to be aware of where they came from and what customs are important to them too.For example the Balinese are very family orientated and if you expect to marry a Balinese man you might just end up playing house with the mother in law.You must make it a point to be aware of what is expected in the relationship.
So if it’s a holiday fling or a ‘just for fun relationship’ you’re after make sure that the other person is aware of this.
You might not think it is necessary, but it’s the best way to prevent it from getting messy down the track.
Also everyone knows that the male race is famous for not showing public displays of emotion.
This too is the case in Indonesia, with the exception being the freedom of expression on facebook. Try to create a trusting and honest relationship so that the airing of your dirty laundry will be kept to a minimum.
I cannot stress it enough, from the very beginning be honest.
It is most essential that you as a non-Indonesian keep your wits about you as well, when you start playing the dating game.